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• If it all right i want to kick it with you all night full#

This makes for a pretty serious crime of Action, and it may even seem like to save the rest of your family, you have to push one out the door. You’re in the military, the police force, or any other line of work that would not only find you homeless but also out of a job should any controlled substance be found in your home or on your property.

You’ve watched his grades slip, found all the evidence you need under his mattress, and of course, you can tell on the rare occasions that he talks to you that he is either stoned or high or both, and no matter what you do, he insists on bringing drugs into the home. Kids may be seriously messing up left and right but there are almost always other answers.

If you are dealing with the crime of Action, there are other methods of not tolerating a behavior than removal from the home. This leaves the child with the notion that it is not the action, but who they are that is being punished. This is often because parents who respond this way do not necessarily see the result of the action as an error in judgment, but parents often refer to their pregnant daughters and guilty sons as sluts and well, worse. Kids who are pregnant or who have gotten someone pregnant fall into the realm of the crime of Being as well as the crime of Action. Gay kids, kids who refuse to “follow the family footsteps,” and kids who are have to take large risks just to keep their heads above water are most likely to find themselves homeless before the age of 17. Whether they are told to leave because they are not like they were expected to be or can not be as they were expected to be, these kids suffer greatly because it’s not a behavior that was rejected, but who they are. The crime of Being includes those kids who are kicked out of their home for who or what they are. What crimes can your kid commit against the family that warrants being homeless and out in the world alone without any preparation? We have to take this in two separate “crime lists.”

If it all right i want to kick it with you all night full#

Knowing full well that we are emotional beings, there is going to be a much more significant emotional impact on the kid than there will be a physical impact on him. If we can consider kicking your teenager out to be the punishment, then we have to weigh it against the crime. They need money and they need it fast in order to feel as though they are surviving “this” and thus options such as prostitution and drug dealing suddenly become much more viable. Most kids who are given the boot stay with friends for a little while, but they can quickly wear out their welcome. This is not an easy task when you aren’t living somewhere to begin with.

If they are still in high school, they are going to have to secure a place to live. When you ban your kid from the home, you are setting them up to opt for a few choices, and none of them are offering them a bright and beautiful future. When we have children we bring them into this world, and our families, for better or for worse and kids under the age of eighteen deserve a chance to make mistakes at home, where the consequences of their behavior doesn’t have to create nearly insurmountable challenges for their future. While there is some behaviors that may warrant kicking your teenager out, this is not something that should ever be entered into lightly, or without great consideration for the consequences. I am not a strong advocate of booting kids from the home.